The important thing is to make sure that the changes are for the better. From what I've witnessed, the most successful relationships are the ones where two people working towards personal wholeness come together, rather than two people looking to fulfill some sort of void.
Whether he/she "gets" it or not, having someone who supports you and is always on your team is a must-have, if you ask me.
8) Do they get along with your friends (and vice versa)?
To me, being self-aware is the first step in becoming a successful dater, and ultimately finding the right person.
I think you'll be surprised by how much you learn about what you actually need and want out of a relationship when you first look inwardly rather than outwardly.
It's not that we have to have it all figured out (who knows if we ever will!